Before Joe Biden became a household name in American politics, a spring break encounter in the Bahamas would change his life forever. It was there that he met Neilia Hunter — a woman whose love, influence, and tragic loss helped shape the man he would become.

It began like a scene from a movie—a stolen spring break, a forbidden beach, and a sun-kissed girl lounging by the pool. But for Joe Biden, a college junior sneaking into an exclusive Bahamian resort in 1964, it would become the moment that changed his life forever.

That day, he locked eyes with Neilia Hunter, a senior from Syracuse University with a dazzling smile and hypnotic green eyes. What started as love at first sight would become the foundation of a whirlwind romance—one marked by triumph, tragedy, and a future president’s unimaginable grief.

A Woman from Skaneateles with a Heart of Gold

Born on July 28, 1942, in the upscale town of Skaneateles, New York, Neilia was the poised daughter of a successful family. Her father ran the bustling Hunter Dinerant in Auburn and managed the cafeteria at a local college. The eldest of three siblings, she grew up spending time along the serene shores of Skaneateles Lake.

By 1960, she had graduated from Penn Hall Preparatory School, where she was a model student involved in the French club, swimming, hockey, and student council. She even held the role of photography editor for the school yearbook, “The Penntonian.”

Sorority Star with Global Ambitions

In college, Neilia’s star continued to rise. At Syracuse, she pledged Kappa Alpha Theta while studying in the College of Liberal Arts. Her leadership soared—she became vice president and later president of the International Relations Club, a sign of her growing intellect and sophistication.

It was this ambitious, intelligent beauty who turned heads at the British Colonial Hotel in Nassau—and whose life would become intertwined with Joe’s forever.

‘We’re Going to Get Married,’ He Told Her

The future senator was immediately captivated. “When she turned toward me, I could see she had a beautiful smile and gorgeous green eyes,” he wrote in his 2007 memoir, “Promises to Keep.” “She was lit by the unforgiving journey of a full afternoon sun, and I couldn’t see a single flaw.”

Neilia was more than just beautiful—she was real. She planned to teach junior high in Syracuse, and her sincerity, warmth, and intellect cut through Joe’s nerves. By the fourth and final day of his trip, he made a bold declaration: “You know we’re going to get married.” Her calm reply? “I think so.”

Despite their different worlds—his modest roots with an upbringing in Scranton, Pennsylvania, Wilmington, Delaware, and Neilia’s affluent background—she didn’t blink. Even when her parents, staunch Republicans and Presbyterians, learned Joe was a Democrat and Catholic, she stood by him.

Her mother once asked Joe about his career ambitions. His answer was as audacious as it was prophetic: “President,” adding, “of the United States.” Even Joe admitted he was no saint. “A dangerous combination of arrogant and sloppy,” he called himself.

He was referencing the time he plagiarized five pages of a law review paper out of ignorance, not deceit. The politician revealed he hadn’t attended enough sessions to know how to do citations.

A Wedding, a Family, and the Spark of a Political Powerhouse

They married on August 27, 1966, while Joe was still in law school. As he launched his legal career and later, in 1970, joined the New Castle County Council, Neilia became his rock.

Together, they welcomed three children in just three years: Joseph “Beau” Biden III in February 1969, Robert “Hunter” Biden in February 1970, and Naomi, nicknamed “Amy,” in November 1971. Neilia also worked as an English teacher in Syracuse until 1968.

Their love story became a political partnership. In a 1972 interview, Joe said, “There were only two people who made important decisions in the campaign. Myself and Neilia [sic].” She was his anchor and “adviser,” the brains behind the campaign—and before turning 30, he had become the second-youngest U.S. senator ever elected.

The couple was left wondering what the next step would be in their political lives. Unfortunately, Joe’s first wife wouldn’t be around for too long.

‘There’s Been a Slight Accident’ – But It Was So Much Worse

But the fairy tale turned into a nightmare just weeks before his swearing-in. While Joe worked in a temporary D.C. office, his sister Valerie Biden, who was helping him get organized, received a devastating call from their brother Jimmy Biden.

Her face went pale. She faced Joe and said carefully, “There’s been a slight accident.” He knew instantly that the worst had happened, sensing something in her voice and feeling it in his chest. “She’s dead, isn’t she?” he asked.

It was December 1972. Neilia had bundled the kids into their Chevy station wagon to buy a Christmas tree when tragedy struck. Their car was hit by a tractor-trailer. Neilia, just 30 years old, and their baby girl, Naomi, 13 months, were killed instantly.

Somehow, Beau, three, and Hunter, two, survived. Both were hospitalized. Joe rushed back home to Wilmington on an emergency flight —a rising star in politics, now a devastated widower.

A Swearing-in at His Sons’ Hospital Bedside

Joe could barely function. In his memoir, he admitted he understood how suicide might feel like an option. But he didn’t succumb—his sons needed him. Becoming a senator was the last thing on his mind, but senior colleagues urged him to try for six months.

He agreed and was sworn in to office at his sons’ hospital bedside. The politician would commute daily from Wilmington via Amtrak, a grueling 90-minute trip each way, just to be with his boys.

Valerie moved in to help and stayed with them for four years. “They had lost their mom and their sister, so they cannot lose their father, and that’s what made him get out of bed in the morning,” she said.

Investigators eventually cleared the truck driver. The findings suggested Neilia had “either accelerated or drifted” into the intersection—possibly distracted by her children.

At her memorial, Joe said that she “had a principle – she treated everyone the same and that worked both ways. Those who were poor, Black, minority, affluent or socially esteemed, she made no distinction among them. [sic]”

But he was not at peace. He would walk the streets at night, burning with anger, wishing someone would pick a fight.

“The pain… seemed unbearable in the beginning, and it took me a long time to heal, but I did survive the punishing ordeal. I made it through, with a lot of support, and reconstructed my life and my family,” he later wrote. He and his wife were together for six years before she passed away.

A Second Chance at Love

Two and a half years later, his brother introduced him to a young woman named Jill Jacobs, a college senior studying English at the University of Delaware and a part-time model, after setting him up on a blind date

Joe recognized her from a billboard ad at the airport. Despite her initial reservations about politics, Jill warmed to Beau and Hunter. After multiple proposals, she said yes. They married in 1977 and had a daughter, Ashley, who would become a social worker.

Unlike most political spouses, Jill kept her day job. She worked as an English professor at Northern Virginia Community College—even while serving as the Vice Presidential spouse.

Security followed her, but discreetly, to the point that nobody seemed to recognize her when she visited a café near the White House. When he called her “drop-dead gorgeous” in 2008, some women voters raised eyebrows. But Jill just laughed.

She said, “Sometimes I get a little put off by things [Joe] might say that are too personal for me, but the thing is, I think Joe believes that.” Jill continued, “How can you get offended when your husband thinks that about you?”

Turning Grief Into Purpose

In a January 2020 interview, Joe, then the former vice president of the US, explained how he uses his past pain to connect with grieving voters. “Hundreds of people… throw their arms over me,” he said. “All they want to know is that they can make it.”

He continued, “The way you make it is you find purpose and you realise they’re inside you. They’re part of you. It’s impossible to separate.” That message became central to his presidency.

A President Remembers the Wife and Daughter He Lost

On March 1, 2022, during his first State of the Union address as president, Joe invoked his past as a single father to support universal childcare. He also referenced his now late son, Beau, to call for veterans’ support.

And in December 2022, exactly 50 years after Neilia and Naomi’s deaths, Joe and Jill held a private memorial mass at St. Joseph on the Brandywine Roman Catholic Church in Delaware. The family then visited Neilia and Naomi’s gravesites, honoring the two people who never got to see the future they helped shape.